P's problem is not that she has two mothers. P knows that her mother RWB and her mother's civil partner SWB are her family and she is happy with that. What makes P so miserable is she and her six-year-old sister L also have two fathers. P says she likes seeing ML and his long-term partner AR. But, according to a grownup who was looking after the 10-year-old a few months ago, "she cannot just pretend that ML is her father in order to make him happy". Except that he is. ML, 50, is indeed the biological father of the two girls. They were conceived by IVF after the lesbian couple (as they described themselves) had advertised in the Pink Paper in 1999 for a gay man or couple who might want to start a family with them.
Sigh.... If P and L were conceived naturally through heterosexual behavior, even as a one night stand, there would be no argument. In a heterosexual relationship, no matter how casual the sex was, a mother can not deny a relationship between her child and her father, unless it was an issue of her safety or abuse.
Equal application of the law means we can't change the elementary understanding that everyone has a mom and dad, and it's not good for the child when a mom and a dad are uncooperative with one another. We know that, gay or straight no 'baby mama' or 'baby daddy' issues please.
Sheesh. And people think we're mean spirited for insisting that responsible procreation should only happens between a married man and woman.
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