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Tuesday, May 24, 2011

You really never can break up when you have a child together.

I was talking to another mother, I knew her and the father of her child were no longer together. I asked her if she didn't mind letting me know the details because our children play together, she obliged.

They had a pretty interesting arrangement when the broke off their cohabitation. Beyond the scheduling of days and sharing time together for special events like a dance recital, they had another rule.

Since their break up was independent and no one left the other one for someone else, they had ground rules for dating other people. While free to date whoever they wished, if they wanted to introduce their daughter to their new boy/girlfriend, the parent had to first introduce their partner to the other parent first. It ends up being, 'You can only date someone my ex approves of.'

The parents are two responsible and lovely people, only makes it more frustrating they didn't end up together. I'm not advocating, it's OK to break up if one does it responsibly, rather it's good to think that parents are really setting their priorities.

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