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Wednesday, April 20, 2011

"We've been engaged for years"

Posted by Renee

Advice column from the Boston Globe, this item caught my eye.

We've been engaged for years is about a single mom with a 'finance' that can't set a date.

"I want you to make a decision about this relationship based on your needs, not your daughter's. I know that you're a mom first -- and that's great -- but you're not shopping for a new dad for your kid. You're looking for the right partner for you, someone who respects that you're a parent and can give you the support you need to do the job. If your partner bonds with your daughter, that's just a bonus."
Women really don't shop for 'a dad', they fall in love with a man in the context of him being her husband, not as a father. The man has to genuinely love and respect you. If a man loves a woman in a respectful manner, then he's going to respect the fact you're a mom, only then will he make a good father or step-father in this case.
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  1. Don't bother to think of the welfare of the children....Another failure from the "me" generation.

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  2. Disgusting. The dismissal of a child's needs, that is.

    I'm always wary when an engagement lasts years, unless we're talking about students. Pre-engagement courting may last years. But then engagement should only be long enough so as to plan and carry out the wedding.

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