The Choice

The nature of logic, it is simply a rigorous school of thought that ultimately acts like a sieve to catch what is logical and dismiss what is illogical. Like mining for gold, it helps us capture valuable golden nuggets of truth from the muddy depths of human reasoning. However, it doesn't do any excavation to find any new truth on its own.

So it is no surprise that logic comes across as dismissive. If one is looking for empathy and understanding, it seems evident that it would be futile to look to logic for that.

If you want a clear guide to tell you want to do when decisions become between two goods, or two evils, logic will not aid you there either. The greatest decision makers in history are heralded not for being logical though their mental workings were very logical. When we talk of the people who made the right decision at the right time, we laud them for being wise. Wisdom is the ability to see the value in the here and now, before the events play out to prove them such.

All I'm saying is that if you are looking for logic, and you've read this site, you've found it. If you are looking for understanding, you'll see that you have it too. If you are looking for wisdom, that will require a journey to discover your own values, your own morals. It was my own journey that lead me to defend marriage. (read on...)

In my years of looking at this issue with an eye for what is of value for everyone, I've found that both sides bring something of worth, something of aiding dignity and welfare of people around us. I've found that both sides have their good points, and bad points.

But one thing I've found is that the needs of both camps cannot be met with the same program. And there is no reason to. You cannot serve the needs of marriage equality by neutering it, you cannot serve the needs of equal recognition of rights and responsibilities of the child and the father and mother by re-creating marriage into something that is purposefully blind to the meaning of that intrinsically natural relationship to begin with.

To put it in a proverb, an uprooted tree can give shade to many different people. But an uprooted tree will die.

Our families need that definition of marriage. Our children need that because that is the only way to adequately recognize their rights. Mothers and fathers need that because by recognizing the equality of one man and one woman working together to that mutual end is the only means of marriage equality.

The core needs of families which are not marriageable can also be met. The mutual trust and dependency they share in each other can be recognized. I think it should be. But should it be recognized at the detriment of a program suited specifically to the needs of the man, woman, and child who all share that natural bond which we expect mutual trust and dependency to exist?

In the end, that is not logical. It is also cold and misunderstanding. But it is wisdom that is venerated with thousands of years of human civilization to let marriage be marriage.