The Result of the Heterosexual Equation
By Renee Aste, Lowell Massachusetts
I realize being in opposition of gay marriage, that there would be dissent, yet over the past few years online it was more about bullying to wear out, shut down, and attempt to publicly shame others on the Internet. Many comments are not to engage in discussion of points and weighing values and concern for differences in various relationships that are formed by adults, but to avoid the points on both sides.
The thing that is lost, that while it is very important to promote healthy and responsible sexuality between men and women, there are also valid points within the gay community. The marriage argument isn’t a hetero-normative means of oppression, but a concept that serves every individual as a human being. Marriage is to support the nature, which men need to be accountable for their procreative means with women. No baby mama drama, no physical/emotional/financial abuse, and respect for a woman’s sexual health and the well being of their children.
On the non-heterosexual relationship side, there are points as well, but do not equally encompass the myriad of other concerns that heterosexual activity has to encounter. With every sexual encounter a woman has with a man, she has to weigh potential pregnancy and bearing a child.
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Does she try to achieve pregnancy? Or does she avoid?
If she avoids, yet still becomes pregnant how will the man respond?
Will she or he both be accepting of the child? What if they disagree?
Is it even safe to have a child with the man?
Is the man of good nature or abusive?
What if she changes her mind?
What if he wants the child and she doesn’t?
Beyond the woman and the man, what about the child?
Shouldn’t we help women and men think about these factors before they even consider having sex?
The beginning of life as an individual is the end result of this heterosexual equation. Human existence is not created within homosexual activity or non-sexual activity. That may be a hard statement to accept for gay marriage supporters, but a concept like marriage in society is the only way to make things just for the equation.
This balance comes in differing forms between a man and a woman, but a scale of justice must exist for the two of them together. Justice can not be unfair, yet not ignore the weight of evidence in the corresponding nature between men, women, and their children. What better way of justice then to have a man commit to the mother of his children, also know as marriage. Men don’t have babies, but are just as responsible for them.
Acknowledging something so evident, doesn’t mean there is not room on the table for anything else. Those other relationships, even as a matter of civil decree can’t replace what has already be set forth in nature, nor should it try to. At times I’m not sure what exactly what the gay community is looking for within redefining marriage. I don’t believe it is marriage that they are seeking but something else that may be just and in its own right. And if there is more then just marriage, then why not open the discussion for relationships that are neither romantic nor sexual in nature?
Human sexuality really does speak for itself. Orientation or social constructs are irrelevant to this. Women ovulate to release an ovum each menstrual cycle and men let go of sperm upon ejaculation. They come together either by the conjugal act (or in lab). When together human life is created. Humanity can not exist very well, if it has no value for the means of its creation.
These protections are devised within us, even before our own awareness of ourselves. It’s in every cell of our bodies, our individual DNA, made of maternal and paternal. Only our biology makes a family tree, to know who really are, an end result of the countless heterosexual equations before us. Whether you see yourself as a result of evolution, of God, or a combination of both, we can’t void out what the sexual equation is. If we stay on course and circumvent in a multitude ways, we will only see more of the collateral damage as a result.
Humanity against itself is nothing new. I can only ponder when this civilization falls, as they always do. All that will be left is our records. So far we have countless pages of court records of child paternity suits/affidavits asking who the father is? Such ambiguity even has arise we ask even if there is a mother? Can you imagine archeologists coming upon a birth certificate with two fathers on it? Would they conclude that the society believed in equality or had some strange misunderstandings on the birds and the bees?
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